Sunday May 13th this year (2007) will be Mother’s Day in the United States. In the United States it is held on the second Sunday in May. There will be a lot of phone calls made. There will be a lot flowers sent and candy sent to mothers. My mother passed away many years ago.
I think men like me later in life wish they had done more for their mother. You think about all the little things that you could have done and you did not. My mother always wanted to show me the family photos and talk about them. I could have called her on the phone more often. I could have seen her more often. Now it is too late. All I can do is tell you young people to do those things now and you will not be old one day and wished you had done those things.
One good deed I did do was keep my mother out of a nursing home. She never wanted to be in a nursing home. (She had been a nurse. She was an “LPN.”) My mother had to go to the hospital a few times. When she got away from her home she got wild and would be confused and fight with the nurses. The doctor told me that she needed to be in a nursing home. I told him no. I took her home and Hilary, my daughter, moved in with her and took care of her until she died. So my mother died in her own home and did not have to go into a nursing home. I could not have done that with out Hilary. If it had just been me having to care for her I am sure I would have put her in a nursing home.
Sometimes I have a dream that my mother is in her home and I dream that I have not gone by to check on her or call her in weeks or months. In my dream is has no one and is alone and has no way to get food or anything. I wake up and for a few seconds I have to stop and think is my mother live or dead? Did I forget about her?
Young people.. spend some time with your mother …listen to her..let her tell you the stories she has told you before..let her show you the family photos..let her show you her lists. Better you should do those things now..and make her happy..and maybe you will not wake up in a cold sweat from a dream some night.


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